The Frisky -- There are a lot of misconceptions about lesbians. I'm confronted with them daily and, frankly, hearing this stuff is like getting smacked in the face with a wet rag. Usually, when someone fires off a stereotype, I am so shocked that I just stand there, staring, opening and closing my mouth like a big, dumb goldfish. So I'm going to take this opportunity to get up on my soapbox and stamp out all the stupid, ignorant misconceptions I have heard over the years.
Love & Sex
Lesbian bed death is the concept that lesbian couples in committed relationships have less sex than any other type of couple the longer the relationship lasts, and generally experience less sexual intimacy as a consequence. The concept is based on research by social psychologist Philip Blumstein and sociologist Pepper Schwartz , published in American Couples: Money, Work, Sex , which found that lesbian couples reported lower numbers when asked "About how often during the last year have you and your partner had sex relations? Analyses of the concept have therefore regarded it as a popular myth. Pepper Schwartz is credited with coining the term lesbian bed death. The questionnaire covered various aspects of their relationship such as work, sex, children, finances, and decision-making.
Some months ago a young woman came to see me who had just turned 18 — and had been questioning her sexual orientation for years. She had been attracted to girls since she was at high school, but she had had sex with both girls and boys. She now believed she preferred girls, but how could she be a lesbian when she had also slept with boys? Her friends told her she was bisexual, but she didn't like to be labelled. It is quite common for lesbians to first have relationships with men. Bisexuals are sexually and emotionally attracted to both men and women. If my client decides she prefers women and doesn't find men attractive anymore, she can rule out being bisexual. But is it that important to label yourself before you figure out your sexual orientation? And how do you know if you are a lesbian or not?
All i want to do it cry reading all of these posts. No matter what anyone says. It's a great idea to know where you stand so that you'll be prepared when this comes up in conversation. I'm so glad you mentioned some of the things that I have been suggesting to my boyfriend for some time, but he has been skeptical about. I would NOT want my daughter or son to marry a doctor. I do nearly all of the parenting fortunately we only have one child -- we both agree that this lifestyle is too demanding for more and find that my husband's crazy hours and the energy drain of the job make me yearn to connect with other wives that relate.